5 Life Lessons I Learned After Breaking Up

The waves of emotions crashed on me like a ship out in sea. I felt stranded, alone, and defeated without a glimmer of hope for another sunny day.

Breaking up during quarantine was one of the hardest challenges I have ever gone through. Like hitting a brick wall, I felt that there was nothing that would help me cope and get me through the pain. For weeks, I cried, I couldn’t sleep, and I couldn’t get her out of my head. But ever so slowly, I got up, I took care of myself, I reflected and this is what I learned.

My Life Is Up to Me

I was in despair and I felt my life crumble all around. As I sat in my shower covering my eyes listen to See You Again playing in the background; I thought to myself that this must be the end/

But it wasn’t the end. Look, there is no magic, you can’t just wait around, and wonder woman isn’t going to come in to rescue you and sweep you off your feet (or superman if you prefer). But what you have to realize is that your life and your happiness is up to you. You need to experience life outside a relationship and without them. You need to see life on your terms. I took 3 whole months to really come to terms that we were over and during that time, I uncovered a sense of the things I wanted, the types of people I wanted to be surrounded by, and the experiences I want to feel.